19.1.15
There's a close friend who has always been making a comment or two on my appearance/what other people look like. Before you open that ignorant mouth of yours, take a look in the mirror - there are many flaws in you too. Just from the top of my head, I can name three things about you which I can think of that don't make you a perfect person either. You also seem to be quite up yourself too, overestimating your importance in other people's lives and how highly people regard of you. Yes, you may have gotten a little lucky with your looks but there are so many other things about you which are also unflattering. But we all keep it to ourselves because we know how much unnecessary remarks from other people can hurt. In the end, words are vicious, so watch what you say. Just because someone laughs it off or doesn't directly comment on how self-deprecating your comments are, it doesn't mean you can continue your assumed "banter".People may already be trying to change/improve on their flaws which is a very time consuming process - what you don't seem to realise is that just one crude comment can discourage the person and turn all their efforts into waste. You see an overweight person on the street, you comment or snicker to your friend about their size. They hear you and pretend that nothing happened at all. What you may not have known is that in the past few months, they may have been vigorously trying their best to lose weight and regain a maintained and balanced lifestyle. They may have already lost a tremendous amount of weight, but your one careless remark could demotivate them entirely, draining their already defeated levels of self confidence and any other remnants of self esteem.
They say people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind - but in reality, we all know that trying to ignore and pretend that other people's comments don't hurt is a lot harder than it seems.
On the bright side I'm finally going to Japan in two week's time! The long wait from July has finally neared its ending and I have never felt so excited before (for a trip, that is). The past few months have just been me juggling work, study and maintaining my nearly non-existent social life which is why this trip is highly (highly^highly) anticipated. Also because it's three weeks of alone time with Dan, no curfews or worries of having to wake up early the next day for work/heading back home before it gets too late.
